On Friday evening, I went to a party where I danced AND actually had fun doing so!
This may not seem like that big of a deal, but for me it was, as I have only danced a hand full of times in the last 30 years.
Thirty years ago, one of my closest friends from the Marshall Islands, Nancy, took me to NYC for the first time. For an island girl, this truly felt like I had landed on a different planet. Nancy loved to dance so she took us to The China Club (a really “hip” club at the time). We were out dancing on the dance floor for a bit when Eddie Murphy came out on the dance floor and was dancing with us. It seemed slightly surreal, but I didn’t have much time to really absorb what was happening, as Nancy grabbed me by the hand and escorted me off the dance floor. With what she truly thought was for my best interest, she lovingly said, “Girlfriend, I just can’t let Eddie Murphy see you dance like that.” She then left me standing there by myself and went back out to the dance floor and continued to move like JLo to the beat of the music with Eddie. To say I was left dumbfounded, was an understatement. I knew I didn’t have any dance trophies at home, but I also didn’t think I was a “bad” dancer.
Even if I wasn’t dancing like Elaine on Seinfeld, I have let that experience hold me back from enjoying dancing with my friends and husband over the years. It is what we call a “limiting belief.” Recognizing a limiting belief is the first step in making positive changes for ourselves. What limiting beliefs do you have that may be holding you back?